Have we ever wanted to hide like there is a part of us we might not want others to see? Why might this feel important?
Have we ever wondered why it may feel that way at times? We may never think about it.
If we’ve never thought about who we want others to see, what if we could discover what we may not know we don’t know about ourselves?
How can we focus on the part of us that may be hidden if we might not believe it’s okay to take the time to get to know who we want to be deep down inside?
Our lifestyles can be so incredibly demanding for many of us. “The proportion of dual-earner married couples more than doubled between 1960 and 2000, increasing from 25 percent to 60 percent” (Pew Research Center, 2015). Now, another 20+ years later, so many of us are busier than ever before and express the lack of time for self-responsibility along with more intense pressure to fulfill the “have-to” family and financial responsibilities.
How often does it feel like we can’t take the time for ourselves because there is something or someone else we have to take care of? How might this affect us?
We can’t know what we don’t know about who we truly want to be until we permit ourselves to recognize the value of self-focused attention.
When we look in the mirror, who do we see?
Do we see multiple characteristics representing who we may think others expect us to be or do we see one person (our secret identity-that person we may not have met yet)?
If discovering who we want to be at our core could empower us to achieve even greater success, what might that mean for us? What feels most significant about this?
What’s the one most important thing we want others to know about who we are? Why might it feel vital that others know this?
For years, I put myself at the very end of my ‘to-do’ list never reaching the end of that list. I used to believe I ‘had to’ be responsible for my family, my job, co-workers, and be there unconditionally for my friends and neighbors too.
It was always easier to self-neglect and self-sacrifice to do what had to be done. What I didn’t know then is that placing ourselves at the bottom of our ‘to-do’ list consistently over time can hide the best part of us so deep it’s hard to find. I used to feel like Humpty Dumpty stuck up on the wall, afraid to retreat to safety and terrified to move forward. By allowing myself to discover the person I want to be, I was able to jump off the wall in forwarding motion. It took time, focus, and support to now be able to live, love, and laugh every day through the good and the bad, through the happy and sad, with total control over how I care for both my mental and physical health.
When we discover the person that we choose to be at our core, we can use the power of our inner strengths and beliefs to permit ourselves to make positive choices, move forward, and achieve success no matter how big or how small.
What areas of our lives might evolve if we reveal a hidden self that we weren’t aware of before? What feels different about this?
If we haven’t discovered our ‘secret identity’ yet, it might be more important to reveal it now than ever before.
During this involuntary global lifestyle change we are experiencing, our ‘have-to’ list is evolving into something we never expected. If we haven’t already done so, now may be the time to push ourselves to the top of our list! Self-responsibility is the component to get us through these critical times so we can be stronger than before for ourselves and for those we care for. It can be as fundamental a need as food, water, and shelter.
So, who might we want to see when we look in the mirror? What might be the part of us that’s been hiding from others? What might we want instead?
What may be one essential thing we might do for ourselves today to fuel our inner power and begin to unveil the best part of who we are?
It is “ME” Monday® after all! Today’s the day to be at the top of our ‘to-do’ list and plan some special “ME” time, no matter how small!
By implementing a “ME” Monday® routine today, we can improve our overall ROI to have a great today and determine the tomorrow we deserve!